Sunday Musings

Photo via Styled Canvas

A few things. First thing's first, hey, and happy Sunday! In the words of my newfound twitter friend Jordan, "Sundays are magical." I've definitely grown quite fond of Sundays the older and more settled I've become. It's a ' take it easy on yourself' kind of day. Like any other day of the week, my Sundays consists of mellow music, binge-watching my favorite youtube channels and bad black cinema on Netflix, and restoring myself. All of these things are even more necessary on Sundays because it's the start of a new week. New intentions. New goals. New outlook. I never take these moments for granted.

This post features the beautiful elements of Mel Chesneau's (aka Styled Canvas) Sweden home. Spotted these lovely photos of her living space and got all warm inside. The plants, the books, the windows. I am crazy about the perfect photo of a lovely living space. 

Photo via Styled Canvas

There are two books on my Amazon wishlist that are no longer there because I decided to buy them myself. Here's the thing about my wishlist - yes, technically, it's a list provided by me for others to buy me things, and although I would LOVE for you to buy me items from my wishlist, it was created so that I could bookmark everything I wanted and would eventually purchase for myself. Now some of these items HAVE been on my wishlist for years. Soooo, with that being said, feel free to love me and buy me stuff.

Anyway, back to the books. I've been wanting Urban Jungle for a good minute now, and Greenterior is one I just recently discovered through Christine (and when she recommends something, I tend to pay attention because she has great taste in pretty much everything), and both books are packed with plants and beautiful interiors. I'm so damn excited to receive them! 

Let's talk disappointment really quick. It's one of life's inevitables, right? Disappointment usually stems from a) not getting what you want, or b) expecting something/being promised something  and never receiving it. I'll be honest and say that I am easily disappointed with people, mainly because I feel that perhaps I expect too much from people. (?) But, expecting people to do what they say they're going to do isn't asking for too much....right? Okay, I didn't think so.

I had two recent similar situations happen where I asked someone to do something, they enthusiastically obliged, and then...crickets. Nothing from either party. I'm usually not the type to ask someone for a favor multiple times, or even remind them of the favor they agreed to, because I feel that if someone really wants to do something, they will do it. I try not to take certain things personal, because most times, it's really not about me, but I'm also the type to expect people to do things how I would do them. That's not good, and I know this. That's a sure way of setting yourself up for disappointment.

So, how should you deal with disappointment? 

First, re-evaluate your expectations.  If you had high expectations and were let down, then it's important to think about whether your expectations were realistic. They very well could have been. But it's important to question your expectations so that in the future, you will experience a different outcome. 'No expectations, no disappointments' is a great motto to live by. I try to live by this, but I slip off the wagon often.

Secondly, don't doubt yourself. The feeling of being constantly disappointed by others could potentially put a damper on your self-esteem. It can make you feel as if you aren't worthy enough, or important enough. Don't allow the actions (or lack thereof) of others to ever get you down.

Lastly, reality check! Is the situation really worth being upset over? If you feel that it is, then allow yourself to sit in those feelings. It's okay to stew in your disappointment; just don't stay there. Get in, and get out. If it isn't worth being upset over, count to ten and keep it moving. It's really that simple. People will continue to let you down. You just have to know how to properly navigate through the disappointment.

Have a peaceful Sunday!